We make up stories in our mind and then fight with others based on our imagination
TED talk suggests the following strategy
To better wrangle with the stories in your head, Brown suggests asking yourself three questions:
1. What are the facts, and what are my assumptions?
2. What do I need to know about the others involved?
3. What am I really feeling? What part did I play?
However, for a yogi – it is obvious and no questions are needed. He sees the various factors directly
Bhavin