EVERYONE will go through life with some things simply unfulfilled. It will be quite a long list. The unfulfilled list is the cause of the next birth. Simple.
Yogananda gave an example like this. I dont have the exact example. Lets say you have a life with a good spouse, decent home, some financial stability, but you only wish your children were better and less disruptive. You also wish that people would understand you better. So, in the next birth you get people who understand you better, a wonderful spouse, but this time good makes you struggle for every penny. Then in the next life, you say, no God, make it perfect. So God gives you a good spouse, good money, decent home, people understand you better, but this time he take away your health.
And now you become smart. You say, God give me money, good spouse, good health, people understand you, good finances, but now you have a very short life
The life we have is a complex play of many different aspects. Mostly it is determined by our Karma and part are shaped by our desires. Everything, we want will be fulfilled but not when we want it or how we want it. The wait will be painful. We will get angry and frustrated. Get bitter.
And by the time we get it, we have lost interest. But since we wanted it immensely, we will get it. Thus everyone goes from life to life, with a long list of unfulfilled wishes. This will continue.
So what does a smart person do? He or she gets angry at onself and the mind. They will wake up and say, I am not going to chase the wishes of the mind. It will only bring me pain. If there is any enemy I have, it is my own mind. I will no longer be friends with my enemy, my mind. Soon enough, you will realize the futility of chasing the world. It was designed to give pain to an unruly mind. Thats why if there is any Satan, it is your mind filled with desires. Knowing this choose wisely
Now there is a dry period in our pursuit of life. We try not to give into the pursuit of life desires. We try to meditate. We have a true Guru. But yet the immense joy. of meditation, remains a spark rather than a blazing fire. This is the dry part. All, I can say is one has to go through this. If you want to eat Uttapam, you have to make the effort of fermenting the batter and then wait. There is no other choice. Eventually you get to eat the uttapam. Then you will say the wait was worth it. This is the phase where you really need an advanced Yogi. Their support is a must. Without it, many a people have given up the path. Thats why in Gita it is said, of all those who try only a few make it
I know this is one of the more boring, blogs, but it is true. We are like a leaf, split away from the tree, blown by the winds of desire, hither and tither, unable to fall back to the feet of the tree where we fell from. Eventually the wind slows, the leaf falls to the feet of the tree. The ego dissolves, the leaf looses its form and gets assimilated again into the full tree!